The lengths we’ll go to not do gun control.

Anything but paying teachers a decent wage…

Medical transition is a whole separate hemisphere of trans life. Despite what most media depictions imply, the majority of trans folk never pursue surgery. Trans folk have always existed, long before medical options were possible. It’s even more recent for them being wildly available. I think most of the community would agree that transition begins when you decide to start pursuing something else, not necessarily after egg crack/coming out/hormones/surgery.

He refused with disgust while counter questioning - “Would that make me more trans?”

Well… good! I am super happy for him! It would be far worse if he felt he had get surgery since that means he’d been suffering.

Honestly this isn’t unusual. I myself did only social transition before deciding ~6 months later to start HRT. Fundamentally he is on a super healthy wave length. We can’t always control how the world perceives us, but so long as you know yourself and are supported by the people who matter, then everything else is just noise.

Transition is all about finding a better way to exist, if he doesn’t feel the need to do any sort of physical changes, that is great! If he changes his mind someday, also great! That day never comes? Still great! The reality of transition is baby steps into something new, then stopping to reflect on if that helped. Him coming out to you sounds like one of those steps. Up to him to decide the one after that. There truly is no wrong answer.

Since you already talking about medical transition, I think you should make it clear that if he does decide to do that, you’ll support him. And then never bring it up again. He knows its an option but you don’t want him to feel like it is an expectation. It’s not for everybody and surgery itself is in no way a reflection of “how trans you are”. We’re all different.

If you were attracted to them pre transition and post that by definition makes you bisexual or pansexual. I will also echo everyone else saying that these labels don’t mean much and could easily become a cage. Their fundamentally just words you use to help others understand, not something you need to pin down and then execute. Let your heart and relationship become whatever feels right, and only THEN use words to describe it to others.

More important than labels is being supportive, careful and judgment free for your partner. Speaking as a trans woman who started transition during a long term relationship. Any confusion and concerns you may have, I assure you are exponentially larger for him. It’s okay if this is no longer the relationship you signed up for, but please for the love of life, don’t berate, challange or express disgust toward him. This is a very vulnerable time and speaking carelessly will cause lasting harm. My ex and I went to pride parades, but when I came out suddenly I was a disgusting pervert. Again it’s okay to leave if being with him no longer sparks joy, but don’t scorch the earth on the wya out.

Like, come on. Screen shot and put it in to an OCR if you’re just too lazy to write out the prompt again.

(Or idk do the work you’re paying exorbitant tuition for)

Another great example of why energy independence is a key part of national security. While I’m sure China is only too happy to receive the publicity and leverage, Cuba being resistant to blockades by a certain belligerent neighbor is immense.