How many friends do you have ?

I’m 53 and I’ve outlived many. The few I have I don’t care to be around at all. (southern drinking buddy is maga & racist af, hear from him now maybe every 5 years)

So, 0 not counting family and their kids. I’m just content these days to watch family grow up.

edit: The biggest change to social interactions I’ve just noticed happens to be due to the legalization of weed, before that I’d have to keep a whole fucking network of associates on hand lol

I think I have one. I don’t think I’ll be able to get more. 😿

Irl? Like one and a half irl friends (the second one and I vibe really well but we’re both pretty independent)

1

And it is only because of his mother dying that brought us back in touch with each other after many years seperated.

3 One of them lives abroad and the other two I see every few months.

3 good ones and maybe 5 outside of that. I’m pretty bad at keeping up with them honestly. Sometimes I message them and they’re like yo its been 6 months where you been, yeah sorry I got obsessed with something and forgot the world exists.

Looking to find some more on my new instance ;)

Many comments mention “people i talk to every day”. Is that really a common thing? Literally daily? I have a couple good friends, but definitely none I talk to daily 😅

For me it is more about being friends for many years and always having a good time when we meet. At most I chat 2-3 times a week with some.

Not sure at this point but it is getting less and less. It becomes harder to hold them together as time goes. I know I need to exert more effort but it sucks if your friends don’t reach out at all. Starting transition, while being the best decision of my life, has really not helped in that regard. Although I can be happy to only have lost one friend directly from that.

I have 9; 5 are uni classmates I’m on a 2-semester project with, and the other 4 are:

-A retired public-sector official old enough to be my grandmother

-A semi-retired realtor also old enough to be my grandmother

-Another realtor who used to work for the first realtor but now is an exec at another company

-His notary-public and possibly-also-CIA longtime boyfriend

All of the latter 4 are older than my parents.

I’m 50. I only have time for acquaintances. Close friends take way too much time.

I realize not close ones, but my partner is for sure my #1. Hard to rely on the one for everything, and social anxiety trying to make new friends as I get older is even more daunting. Lesson to the youth - take care to have friends as you age!

Never had any, I’m probably for the best given the many problems of society

Close friends that I talk to almost daily? Like 4

Friends that I talk to about once a week or more? Like 10-15

Friends that I rarely talk to, but would hang out with time permitting? Like 30. Most are co workers that I’ll go drinking with after work.

People I talk to every day: 2

People I feel able to confide in regularly: 3

People I occasionally invite over for a party: 15

Acquaintances I enjoy being around at social functions: maybe 50

None of the categories count my kids, other people’s kids, or family except for my wife

Also, I think my numbers are inflated because of how many bands I was in when I was younger. The community of that music scene was something I’m not sure I’ll ever see again. But I do play dnd every week, which helps too.