Kyle Hill on YouTube has a good recent video about it

Possibly deep cut but the BBC miniseries Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell

Based on an incredible book set in the Regency period about magic and magicians, the world is just so cool, I’d love another episode just about people making statues talk and enchanting the weather and stuff

I am a leaf on the wind 💔

I’ve heard the argument before that it’s tied up in misogyny, homophobic men are, consciously or otherwise, thinking basically “I’m afraid gay men will treat me the way I treat women”

Hence all the anti-gay jokes like “backs against the wall lads” (note how the straight men are often imagining themselves as the bottom) - implication being, “I don’t respect consent therefore what if the gay man who’s more of a threat to me physically doesn’t either”

No idea how accurate this is but it certainly rings true for some behaviours